Actress and author Valerie Bertinelli was married to businessman Tom Vitale for more than a decade before they went their separate ways.
The pair met shortly after Bertinelli divorced her first husband, late rock star Eddie Van Halen, with whom she shares her son Wolfgang Van Halen.
Bertinelli and Vitale dated for six years before they got engaged in 2010. "I could have spent the rest of my life with Tom and not be married, but I wanted to call him 'my husband,' " the Hot in Cleveland star told PEOPLE. "I really wanted to share how I feel about Tom with the people I love."
The couple eventually tied the knot in their Malibu, California home on New Year's Day in 2011.
During their 10-year marriage, Bertinelli and Vitale co-founded the internet startup Veebow and shared plenty of sweet moments. Vitale also appeared on his wife's TV Land sitcom Hot in Cleveland and her Food Network show Valerie's Home Cooking.
Fans were shocked, however, when Bertinelli filed for legal separation from Vitale in November 2021, citing "irreconcilable differences." She then amended her petition to ask for a divorce in May 2022, which was finalized in November 2022.
From their surprise wedding to difficult divorce proceedings, here's everything to know about Valerie Bertinelli and Tom Vitale's relationship.
2004: Valerie Bertinelli and Tom Vitale meet
Bertinelli was introduced to Vitale by her brother, Patrick Bertinelli, while she was visiting her parents in Scottsdale, Arizona. The One Day at a Time star had just separated from Van Halen at the time and Vitale had also just gone through a divorce.
"Val and I were coming from a tough time and wanting to move on but didn't want to trust anyone," Vitale told AARP The Magazine in 2010. "We just understood each other completely ... My family is her family. It wasn't love at first sight; it was family at first sight."
March 2010: Valerie Bertinelli and Tom Vitale get engaged
After six years of dating, Vitale surprised Bertinelli with a proposal in Florence, Italy. "We'd talked about getting married, but I was still shocked," she said at the time. "It was sweet when he asked me, because he was so scared. I was like, 'Are you kidding me?' "
May 2010: Valerie Bertinelli is "happiest" with Tom Vitale
Even before they were officially married, Bertinelli and Vitale were in a "honeymoon phase," according to a friend of the couple. "She's happiest when they're together," the actress' trainer, Christopher Lane, told PEOPLE. "She's thrilled to be with the man she loves."
June 2010: Tom Vitale discusses his future with Valerie Bertinelli
Though Bertinelli and Vitale were looking forward to their big day, they focused on planning their future rather than the wedding itself. "We've both had good weddings [before]," Vitale told PEOPLE at the premiere of Hot in Cleveland, which Bertinelli starred in alongside Betty White. "Now we want a good marriage."
July 2010: Valerie Bertinelli and Tom Vitale plan a "very small" wedding
The pair agreed that their wedding should be a small affair with little fanfare, as they had both been married before. "For me, it feels silly. I'm 50. It's not about the wedding. I just want to have a marriage," Bertinelli told PEOPLE. "We're going to get married in Italy, just the two of us and a witness."
November 2010: Valerie Bertinelli and Tom Vitale enjoy pre-wedding honeymoons
Bertinelli and Vitale were ready to start their lives together — the couple took a "pre-honeymoon" in Italy before officially tying the knot. "One of these days we're going to get married, but we just had an amazing three weeks in Italy, and so now we're planning our second honeymoon for us to actually get married and go again," the bride-to-be told PEOPLE. "We're doing all the honeymoons first."
January 1, 2011: Valerie Bertinelli and Tom Vitale get married
After initially planning a small wedding, the couple had a change of heart. They married at their home in Malibu on New Year's Day in front of 100 guests, surprising them with a wedding ceremony when they arrived. "We're so happy!" Bertinelli told PEOPLE.
Among the attendees were Bertinelli's Hot in Cleveland costars Jane Leeves and Wendie Malick, as well as former One Day at a Time costars Mackenzie Phillips and Pat Harrington. Also in attendance were Bertinelli's ex-husband Van Halen and their son, Wolfgang.
January 5, 2011: Valerie Bertinelli says she's "happier than ever" after marrying Tom Vitale
Shortly after the couple tied the knot, Bertinelli described herself as "happier than ever" during an exclusive interview with PEOPLE. "I could have spent the rest of my life with Tom and not be married, but I wanted to call him 'my husband,' " she said. "I really wanted to share how I feel about Tom with the people I love."
January 19, 2011: Valerie Bertinelli says it "feels appropriate" to call Tom Vitale her husband
During an appearance on The View shortly after the wedding, Bertinelli revealed her favorite perk of marriage: getting to call Vitale her husband. "I think I got tired of calling him 'my spousal equivalent,' " the actress said. "It's nice to call him my husband. It feels appropriate."
February 2011: Valerie Bertinelli describes her bond with Tom Vitale
In an interview with Good Housekeeping, Bertinelli discussed her and Vitale's deep connection and love for each other. "He has unlocked some things in me that I usually like to keep buried," she said. "He unlocks a lot of the stuff I don't have to hold on to anymore. I love him. I adore him."
October 2012: Valerie Bertinelli describes her and Tom Vitale's shared love of food
After losing weight with Jenny Craig and becoming a spokesperson for the brand, Bertinelli published her first cookbook, One Dish at a Time. She spoke to Prevention about how cooking and romance were tied together for her and Vitale. "A lot of love goes into making soup," she said. "The first time I made gazpacho for him, I thought I was going to be made love to the entire night!"
April 2018: Valerie Bertinelli describes life at home with Tom Vitale
The couple opened the doors to their Los Angeles home in 2018 and gave Food Network Magazine an exclusive tour of the space, which they shared with their dog and five cats. Bertinelli revealed that her favorite place in the house was her library, where she would relax with her pets and find inspiration for her cookbooks and cooking show Valerie's Home Cooking.
"It's my favorite room in the house after the kitchen — it lets me take care of myself for just a couple minutes a day," she explained.
Vitale, on the other hand, loved the grape vines the couple planted in the backyard, which allowed him to bottle his own wine.
October 6, 2020: Valerie Bertinelli mourns late ex-husband Eddie Van Halen
Though their marriage didn't last, Bertinelli and Van Halen remained close until the Van Halen frontman passed away in October 2020 from throat cancer. The ex-couple had even attended each other's second weddings.
In her January 2022 memoir Enough Already: Learning to Love the Way I am Today, Bertinelli called Van Halen her "soulmate" and revealed that she and her son were by his side during his last moments.
"'I love you' are the last words Ed says to Wolfie and me," she wrote "and they are the last words we say to him before he stops breathing." She continued, "I loved Ed more than I know how to explain."
November 23, 2021: Valerie Bertinelli files for legal separation from Tom Vitale
After 10 years of marriage, Bertinelli filed for a legal separation from Vitale, citing "irreconcilable differences." The court documents also stated that the couple would adhere to their premarital agreement.
January 2022: Valerie Bertinelli says life is "too short to waste"
In her book Enough Already: Learning to Love the Way I Am Today, Bertinelli opened up about her struggles with self-acceptance and self-love. "I cover a lot," the actress told PEOPLE ahead of its release. "But ultimately it's about growing older, with the emphasis on growth, learning lessons and reminding myself — and hopefully those who read the book — that life is a gift and too short to waste."
May 12, 2022: Valerie Bertinelli files for divorce from Tom Vitale
Six months after her initial petition for separation, Bertinelli amended her filing to request a dissolution of marriage. Though she wrote about her connection with Van Halen in her memoir, Bertinelli said that those feelings didn't contribute to the breakup of her marriage. "We grew apart," she told PEOPLE. "The decision has nothing to do with my love for Ed. I wish Tom the best and I know he feels the same way about me."
May 2022: Valerie Bertinelli says divorce from Tom Vitale "sucks"
In a TikTok video, Bertinelli shared that she had been going through some "yucky stuff," and then read a passage from her memoir.
A fan commented that Bertinelli seemed "so distressed and sad," expressing their concern for the actress. "I'm just having a bad day," Bertinelli responded in another video. "But you know what? Sometimes we have bad days and then we get over them and then there's a good day. So I'm looking forward to the good day. F — this bad day."
She later posted a video underscored by Taylor Swift's song "tolerate it," writing "divorce sucks" in the caption.
June 3, 2022: Tom Vitale challenges his prenup with Valerie Bertinelli
After Bertinelli filed to dissolve their marriage, Vitale responded with his own court filing, challenging the existing premarital agreement they signed before their 2011 wedding. He also sought to block Bertinelli from requesting spousal support.
Vitale later requested to be awarded $50,000 monthly in spousal support and around $200,000 in legal fees.
June 9, 2022: Valerie Bertinelli says she "can't imagine ever trusting anyone" after split from Tom Vitale
After splitting with Vitale, Bertinelli said that she's content being alone during an appearance on the Today show. "I am gonna be more than happy to be happily divorced and spend the rest of my life alone," she told co-host Hoda Kotb. "I'll be happy that way. Well, with my six cats and my dog and my son, and hopefully one day grandchildren."
She added that she doesn't see herself looking for love again. "Because of the challenges that I'm going through right now, because divorce sucks," she said. "I can't imagine ever trusting anyone again to let into my life. So I have some trust issues that I'm sure I'm going to have to get past."
July 13, 2022: Valerie Bertinelli requests a separate trial to review prenup with Tom Vitale
After Vitale challenged the validity of the prenuptial agreement, Bertinelli then requested "an early and separate trial" to validate the original prenup they agreed to.
If a judge grants the separate trial, Bertinelli and Vitale's divorce proceedings will pause until the separate trial is concluded. Bertinelli has argued that their prenup, which contains a "waiver of temporary and permanent spousal support," is still valid; Vitale has argued that their prenup should be dismissed, allowing him to proceed with his request for spousal support.
September 2022: Valerie Bertinelli sells the rings and shoes she wore during her wedding to Tom Vitale
Bertinelli announced she's parting ways with some of the accessories she wore during the former couple's 2011 wedding.
"Dropped a few things off with @therealreal," she captioned a series of photos of the items, which included a pair of Jimmy Choo heels and what appeared to be two wedding bands in front of a Tiffany & Co. box.
"A couple of Tiffany rings that have some bad memories attached and a pair of shoes I wore to a wedding in January 2011 😉," wrote, adding: "They should be up in a couple of weeks! ✨💖."
November 22, 2022: Valerie Bertinelli and Tom Vitale finalize their divorce
Bertinelli, who described the day on Twitter as the "second best day" of her life, couldn't be happier that she's officially divorced from Vitale after being legally separated for a year.
"My lawyer just called. The papers are all signed. They're about to be filed," she said in a video. "On 11/22/22, I am officially f------ divorced. Happily divorced. Finally. It's finally over."
January 1, 2023: Valerie Bertinelli celebrates her first New Year's Day since divorcing Tom Vitale
Bertinelli posted a video of herself twirling to Taylor Swift's "Clean" on Instagram, marking her first New Year's as a divorcée.
"This new year's day is coming in so much happier than last year's," the Food Network star wrote in her caption. "From a young age, New Year's Day has been one of my absolute favorite days, for the last 5-6 years it's been one of the saddest. No more. There is so much to look forward to now, when before it just looked endlessly sad, scary, lonely and stressful. I have no idea what's ahead for me and I'm not worried. I'm free. This new years day, 2023, is the first day of the rest of my life!"
January 30, 2023: Valerie Bertinelli opens up about past trauma
Bertinelli told her Instagram followers that participating in dry January has allowed her to "feel" again and process some of her past trauma.
"I have been screamed at so many times and told how fat and lazy I am," Bertinelli said. "I realize…that was someone just projecting on me whatever they needed to project on me, but my part in all of it was believing it, and I don't believe it anymore. But it still doesn't stop the feelings from coming up and the hurt."
Bertinneli didn't reveal whether that "someone" was her ex-husband Tom Vitale.
"My core is happiness and joy, and it gets covered with the stupid things people say to me that I started to believe," she continued. "I'm saying this because I know a lot of you out there feel the same way, and you're told shit that's not true. It's not true. Someone's trying to dim your light. F--- 'em. Shine bright."
Valerie Bertinelli and Tom Vitale's Relationship Timeline? ›
Bertinelli and Vitale met in 2004 after being introduced through her brother Patrick. They dated for six years before getting engaged, and they got married in January 2011. After the wedding, Bertinelli said that she was excited to finally refer to Vitale as her “husband” after their lengthy courtship.Why is Valerie divorcing Tom? ›
The actress and Food Network star cited "irreconcilable differences" as the cause for divorce in Los Angeles Superior Court of California documents obtained by USA TODAY. Court documents stated the couple had a prenuptial agreement in December 2010 that is "in full force and effect and fully binding on the parties."Who was the love of Eddie Van Halen's life? ›
Valerie Bertinelli looks back on love and life with Eddie Van Halen.Does Valerie have to pay spousal support? ›
Per their prenuptial agreement, neither Bertinelli nor Vitale will pay each other spousal support, the documents state.Why does Tom leave Lynette? ›
Lynette (Felicity Huffman): She thought Tom (Doug Savant) invited himself over to her house to tell her he wanted to get back together. But instead, because he thought he'd seen her with another man, he told her he'd be filing divorce papers the next morning.Who was at Eddie Van Halen's bedside when he died? ›
As reported by PEOPLE, Bertinelli writes in her book Enough Already: Learning to Love the Way I Am Today about how she and their son Wolfgang were at his bedside in hospital, along with his second wife, Janie Liszewski, and his brother, Alex Van Halen.Who received Eddie Van Halen's money? ›
When it comes to Eddie's wealth, while there is no official statement on the matter, we can assume his wealth was distributed among his children, widow, and potentially his ex-wife, all of whom were present when he died.Why did Valerie leave Eddie? ›
In her autobiography, she admitted Eddie's cocaine addiction as well as his refusal to stop smoking following an oral cancer diagnosis fuelled their break-up.Who paid the most spousal support? ›
- Rupert & Anna Murdoch — $1.7 billion.
- Craig & Wendy McCaw — (more than) $460 million. ...
- Mel & Robin Gibson — (more than) $425 million. ...
- Neil Diamond & Marcia Murphy — $150 million. ...
- Amy Irving & Steven Spielberg — $100 million. ...
- Kevin Costner & Cindy Silva — $80 million. ...
Tom Vitale's net worth is quite a bit less than Valerie Bertinelli's. Vitale's net worth is estimated at $5 million. He has been an executive producer at Syfy (formerly the Sci-Fi Channel) and Chiller, producing films and leading in programming and original movies.
What does Tom Vitale do for a living? ›
Lynette confronts Anne Schilling, who is having an affair with her son, and physically attacks her. I was relieved to learn that Tom was not cheating on Lynette. I was disturbed to learn that their son was having an affair with his best friend's mother. This isn't the first time Mrs.What secret is Tom hiding from Lynette? ›
Tom is found out to be meeting another woman after Lynette follows him to Atlantic City and sees them embracing. Lynette later finds out that this woman is actually the mother of his daughter - which he did not known he has - born long before he married Lynette.Did Lynette divorce Tom? ›
This memory finally causes Lynette to make the decision to fight for her marriage, win Tom back, and dissolve his romance with Jane. In With So Little to Be Sure Of Lynette and Tom officially sign their divorce papers ending their marriage.Who was Van Halen's front man? › Who is Van Halen's first wife? ›
He died of a stroke at Saint John's Health Center in Santa Monica, California, on October 6, 2020, at the age of 65, surrounded by his wife, Janie; son and current (at the time) bassist of Van Halen, Wolfgang; ex-wife Valerie Bertinelli; and brother and co-founder/drummer of Van Halen, Alex.What kind of car does Valerie Bertinelli have? ›
Valerie Bertinelli lives in Los Angeles. Her father's GM influence lingers too. According to her bio, one of the cars she owns is a Chevrolet Corvette.What did Gene Simmons say about Eddie Van Halen's death? ›
"Eddie was not only a guitar god, but Eddie was a gentle soul," Gene Simmons said in his tribute. Georgia Slater is a writer/reporter on the Parents team at PEOPLE. Gene Simmons is paying tribute to fellow rock legend Eddie Van Halen following his death.What happened to Eddie Van Halen's second wife? ›
They officially divorced in 2007. Eddie then went on to marry Liszewski in 2009, while Valerie also remarried, tying the knot with Tom Vitale in 2011. Valerie told People magazine that both marriages were struggling before Eddie's death. She eventually filed for separation from Vitale in November 2021.Where is Van Halen's grave? ›
As per his final wishes, Van Halen was cremated and his ashes given to his son Wolfgang, TMZ reports. His ashes will be scattered off the coast of Malibu, California, the city in which he lived for years.
Was Eddie Still In love With Valerie? ›
Eddie Van Halen and Valerie Bertinelli in 1985. Valerie Bertinelli and Eddie Van Halen never stopped loving each other. The actress, author and Food Network star was by her ex-husband's side, along with their son Wolfgang, when he died in 2020 at the age of 65 after a battle with cancer.Does Valerie leave her husband? ›
Bertinelli and Vitale reached a divorce settlement — and filed their judgement with a California court — on Tuesday, November 22, according to documents obtained by Us Weekly. The Food Network star was ordered to pay her ex-husband $2.2 million even though they had a prenuptial agreement in place.Who was Eddie Van Halen's second wife? › What happened to Valerie and her husband Tom? ›
The Food Network personality previously filed for legal separation from Vitale in November 2021 after 10 years of marriage. At the time, she also listed “irreconcilable differences” as the reason for the duo's breakup.Are Lynette and Tom getting a divorce? ›
After a year of separation, he and Jane split and Tom and Lynette reconciled and continued their marriage.How old is Valerie Bertinelli and what is her net worth? ›
Valerie Bertinelli's net worth
As per Celebrity Net Worth, Valerie has a net worth of $20 million as of 2022 which she amassed thanks to her acting career and other incomes. The 62-year-old presenter, chef and author lives in a Los Angeles property which she purchased in 2002 for a whopping $2.25 million.
“Irreconcilable differences” technically means that an individual and their spouse cannot get along with one another enough to keep the marriage alive, and this lack of getting along can cause a whole array of other issues in the marriage.How old was Valerie Bertinelli in One Day at a Time? ›
Following her appearance in an episode of Apple's Way, Bertinelli was approached by producer Norman Lear to audition for the role of cooperative daughter Barbara Cooper in a new sitcom called One Day at a Time. The show debuted in late 1975 when Bertinelli was 15 years old.Why was Edie Britt killed off? ›
Sheridan commented that killing Edie "was a risky decision that could have devastating ramifications," and admitted to feeling ignored by Cherry while on the series. Cherry alleges that the reason behind Edie's death was to cut costs from the series.Does Valerie Bertinelli struggle with weight? ›
She said it all began in 2016 when her father was dying and things have snowballed since then. But Bertinelli said she knows it will get better. “I know this weight is protecting me right now and when I get healthier internally and emotionally that weight will come off,” she said. “I know I'm treating my body better.
Who gets Eddie Van Halen's estate? ›
When it comes to Eddie's wealth, while there is no official statement on the matter, we can assume his wealth was distributed among his children, widow, and potentially his ex-wife, all of whom were present when he died.How much did Valerie Bertinelli sell her house for? ›
Real estate sources tell TMZ ... the actress is getting rid of her house in Laurel Hills, and she's selling it for $2.9 million.